In my experience there are some similarities that crop up for clients, and it can be helpful to identify with these.
However, please remember that your problem might not fit neatly into one box or 'label'. What is important to know is that you are the expert on you, so trust your instincts and reach out when you need support.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, 2020 saw an increased number of people reporting high levels of anxiety, going from 21% in 2019, to 49% in 2020*. Feeling unsafe in everyday situations, such as at work, college or university, social gatherings or even the supermarket, can be exhausting and upsetting. It may also affect how you relate to others, and you may find yourself feeling more sensitive, or ruminating over interactions with others in your mind.
Feeling anxious limits your ability to live in the moment and do the things you want to do. It might also affect other areas of your life, such as your sleep, your self-image, your physical health or your relationships.
I provide a safe and secure space where you can explore your issue in more depth, helping you to understand your trigger points and where they may have come from. Over time you will begin to regain a sense of control as you understand yourself and learn how to be kinder to yourself.
Depression is a mental illness characterised as a chronic sadness that persists over time. The causes of depression differ person to person. Some people may experience bouts of depression throughout their life, while others may experience it after difficult life events.
Depression limits the ability to feel pleasure, so that things once enjoyed no longer have the same effect. People living with depression may numb out as a way to cope. People may often experience a sense that life is hopeless or that they have nothing to offer others. There is a also a strong link between depression and suicide risk**.
Although nobody can simply make depression go away, talking can help. As your counsellor I will support you in your healing, listen and encourage you to process your negative thoughts and feelings, without judgement. I believe you are important and deserve to be happy, and that this can be achieved with the right support. So don't wait - reach out today.
Low Confidence and Self-esteem
These two terms differ slightly in that confidence is about your self-belief, whereas esteem is about your self-worth. If you have a low opinion of yourself, it is likely you will experience both of these and this will contaminate every area of your life. There is also a strong connection between low-self-esteem and mental illness***.
One of the ways I describe it is like living with an internal bully, putting you down, holding you back and picking on everything about you. Sadly, this critical voice can often be traced back to someone you knew or still know. It could also be the result of discrimination, stigma or abuse. Yet somehow you're finding it difficult to switch off from it, as though it is a part of you.
However you can choose to fight back against these negative forces. I will work with you on challenging the inner critic, and champion you in developing your own voice - one that speaks a much kinder truth.
There is no denying the modern world can be a chaotic place. UK government statistics show that from 2014 to 2019, work related stress, anxiety and depression has risen by approximately 66%****. This suggests people have increasingly high pressure lifestyles and greater expectations about what they should be achieving on a daily basis.
For some people, stress can be a prelude to more serious mental health and physical health problems. Despite this, people often ignore their own needs, ploughing on until breaking point.
I can provide a calm, quiet space for you to release some of this tension. Through talking we can explore your choices and support your ability to say 'no' more often, and recognise when you need to stop and take a breath.
*Anxiety UK. Available online at https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Key-Facts-and-Figures-2020.pdf
** WHO January 2020. Available online at https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/depression
***Mind January 2019. Available online at https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/about-self-esteem/
****HSE November 2020. Available online at https://www.hse.gov.uk/statistics/causdis/stress.pdf